DTroth

Hey peeps, this is an excerpt from my Hub (article), "Humor...it's no laughing matter" ...  I've been witnessing a lot of spouse's and significant others treating their partners poorly, lately, so I'm posting this here.  Please don't forget to treat your loved ones with respect.  Don't take them for granted.  Cherish them.  Love them.

Guys, most women LOVE romance. I know I do...and no, that doesn't mean I read romance novels. I don't see the point in fantasizing about someone else's love life. So...even if you're not the romantic type, try bringing her a single rose every now and then and let her know you're thinking of her during your busy day at work. Or you could light a few candles, preferrably without catching the house on fire, and draw her a bath just before she comes home from work. Don't be afraid to show her affection in other ways besides sex. Although a daily "quickie" or a "nooner" can also greatly help with the de-stressing department. Nothin' wrong with that! Try giving her a massage WITHOUT expecting a "happy ending" for yourself. If a woman is getting a massage knowing she has to have sex during or afterwards, it's not very relaxing for her. Fun, but not relaxing. There's room for those kinds of massages for husbands and wives too, but not EVERY time. Let her know she'll get just a massage and nothing more and then keep your promise. Ya never know...she might appreciate it so much that you might get lucky later on...but don't count on it. That way you won't be disappointed. As silly as it sounds, other things you can do are just basic household chores. Anything to help out around the house without being asked to do it. Take out the trash or wash the dishes. If you would take the initiative to do a lot of that stuff before you're asked, you may not get nagged so much, if at all. I've never nagged my husband about anything. Yes, that's the truth. I see no point in it and I intensely dislike arguing. Like, seriously...INTENSELY DISLIKE...arguing. If something needs done and he hasn't gotten to it yet, I'll go ahead and do it. He's that way too. So, we never really have anything to argue about.

Gals, a lot of guys like romance too, but they also love to be respected and appreciated and needed by you. I'm not talking about complacently stroking his ego. Most men are too smart to fall for that. But letting him know how much you care about him and appreciate him being there for you will go a long way in opening communication lines for the two of you. Don't be afraid to tell him how proud you are of him. Telling somebody you're proud of them isn't only reserved for parents telling their children that. He needs to know that what he's working so hard for and trying to accomplish in life, whether it's his career or being a great dad, is that you notice him and deeply appreciate him and all his efforts. He also HAS to know that you are always there for him too and you won't let him down. Treat him gently, whether it's emotionally or physically. I'm not saying men are fragile...not even close! But don't shoot him down with mean, spiteful words and make him feel like he's worthless in your eyes. Recovery from that is a long, hard road, if he ever can fully recover...that goes for women too, guys. He'd probably rather have you punch him in the face...bruises heal quicker than verbal abuse. ***NOT that I'm condoning spousal abuse in any way, shape, or form...it's just an example.*** By "gently" in the physical sense: gently caressing parts of his body that have nothing to do with his "special area" will have an amazing effect on him and drive him absolutely crazy (by the way...that goes for women too, guys)! Don't be afraid to explore his body slowly, using your fingertips, lips and tongue. Find his "spot" that makes him weak in the knees. They all have at least one. NO, not THAT one. Okay...at least one other besides THAT one! He may not even know it exists...yet. If he won't let you finish your "exploration" of him cuz he's fully turned on and really impatient for it to go to the next level, then tie his butt down and continue on your expedition until he's literally begging for mercy. (:

~ I wrote this and published it more than a year ago on April 5, 2011 and then unpublished it in February 2012, along with the other 50+ articles I wrote. ~